“In the Shakespearean comedies, the wedding is the end, and there isn’t much indication of what happily ever after will look like day to day. In real life, shouldn’t a wedding be an awesome party you throw with your great pal, in the presence of a bunch of your other friends? A great day, for sure, but not the beginning and certainly not the end of your friendship with a person you can’t wait to talk about gardening with for the next forty years.”
I came across this quote today, while reading Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? by Mindy Kaling and I really liked it. I don’t claim to know anything about marriage or how to make it work, but it completely rings true to what I’ve been saying I want my wedding to be since the day we got engaged. I don’t care about formalities or traditions; I’m not looking to impress anyone. The designer in me cares about it being pretty, and not like the Dollar Store threw up my decorations, but as for the actual affair itself – I just want it to be me and The Boy committing to each other the love we already know we share and celebrating that with the people really close to us.
I don’t expect our relationship to change, we’ve been together six years so we’re clearly already committed. I don’t expect this to be the holy grail at the end of the dating quest. I expect, really, that things will keep going as they have been – except we’ll be sharing a name, a bank account and I’ll probably be really sappy for awhile because I love him so much and am excited to marry him.
We’ll still go on being ourselves. We’ll keep doing our thing. We’ll hang out with our friends, we’ll play with our cat, we’ll giggle at each others stupid jokes and we’ll keep annoying each other when we can’t be decisive. We’ll just be doing it officially married.